Creating Your Inner Safety Net

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There are moments when life feels shaky - like everything is shifting under your feet and you’re not quite sure where to land.
And in those moments, it’s so easy to look outward.

For answers.
For reassurance.
For something or someone to make us feel OK again.

But what if you could create your own sense of safety?
Not because everything is certain - but because you know how to come home to yourself.

Safety isn’t just external — it’s internal
We often think of safety as something we have to secure - through routines, control, outcomes, or other people’s validation.
And while those things can absolutely offer support, they’re not always guaranteed.

Life can shift. Plans can change. People can leave.
So what then?

That’s where your inner safety net comes in: the practices, tools, and reminders that ground you when everything else feels uncertain.

So what does an inner safety net actually look like?

It’s different for everyone, but it might include things like:

  • A breath pattern that instantly grounds you

  • A phrase you return to when anxiety spikes

  • A simple practice that helps you feel back in your body

  • A person you trust to speak your truth to

  • A soft ritual that reminds you you’re safe - right here, right now

The power isn’t in having the perfect routine.
It’s in remembering you have your own back.

What’s been part of mine lately
These are some of the things I’ve been leaning on recently (especially as my body and life keep shifting in ways that are beautiful but also unknown):

  • Left hand over heart, right on belly. Close eyes. Breathe. Simple and immediate.

  • A reminder: “This isn’t forever. But I am still here.”

  • Warm showers, slow mornings, soft clothes. Anything that invites my nervous system to soften.

  • Letting myself cry without making it a problem. Just letting it move through.

  • A very specific playlist that feels like home. (And dancing, badly, in the kitchen.)

These aren’t fixes. They’re invitations back to myself.

📝 A few prompts to build your own safety net
Try writing or reflecting on these:

  • What helps me feel grounded when everything feels loud or fast?

  • When was the last time I felt safe in my body — what was happening?

  • What are 3 things I can do when I feel unsteady that don’t rely on anyone else?

  • What does “I’ve got me” look like in real life?

You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need one anchor, one reminder that you’re safe to be here.

Your safety doesn’t have to be built on certainty.
It can be built on self-trust, softness, and knowing how to return to yourself.

This isn’t about control.
It’s about connection.